Raising Boys   879 members

By: sissygirl 6 months ago

there are programs you can put on your computor to block any of these type of sites; and can not be worked around.

By: Krismjohns 6 months ago

I just experienced this same situation with my 14 year old son. I finally sat down and figured out how to get the parental blocks to work. You need to set him up with his own log in. And make sure he can't access anyone elses login.

By: BethOry 6 months ago

I use SafeEyes - it's not only a blocking program, but a tracking program. You can see everything that has been visited on your computer - and it can't be tampered with by the kids unless they learn your login information. Excellent product! I found it at DaveRamsey.com

By: TheLearningCommunity 6 months ago

It is normal for a 14 year old boy to be interested in sex and become sexually aroused from time to time.  His hormones are turning him into a man, and sex is all around him--on TV, the radio, in video games and likely constantly running out of the mouth of most of his friends.

Pornography, however, isn't healthy or realistic--it degrades women, promotes promiscuity, and takes no precautions for STDs or pregnancy.  Granted, many people use pornography, but that doesn't mean that it teaches anyone healthy attitudes about relationships, women, safe sex, or even reality. 

What a 14 year old boy needs to learn is that he is developing normally and it is normal for him to have an interest in sex.  He needs his parents to teach him about love, relationships, respect, trust, STDs, pregnancy and your family's morals.  Be a good example for him.  But don't rely on pornography or other sexual media to teach him in your place.  He will naturally become aroused, but he doesn't need to satisfy that with pornography.  He is still a child, and your house rules should reflect that. 

I blogged in depth about this on the nonprofit parenting website The Learning Community.

By: Momstergay 6 months ago

Agree with those who suggest other ways to address is natural curiousity than endorsing it with material that doesn't show women and sex in the best possible way. I totally agree we want our sons to have a healthy attitude toward sex and relationships, but I don't agree that Maxim and Playboy are the way to go.