SexEd   86 members

By: MOMSLK 6 months ago

I need help with this, too. We have a 10 yr. old son, and a couple of his friends have already experienced "the talk." They were hearing things on the bus - incorrect things - and their parents needed to deal with it, understandably. I'm not sure if it's better to wait until he asks questions or be proactive and "just do it."

By: Saminseattle 5 months ago

Personally I dont think they can be "too young" just age approprate for the info given.  I feel that it should be an ongoing casual conversation.  I did this with my oldest son, who is now 19.  We have a very open (sometimes too open) relationship because of it.  I think approaching it in a non-threatening non-judgemental way can lead the path for more openness between you and your children.  If you start young, they wont feel judged, like your only talking to them because they are doing something wrong like teens can feel.

 But not doing so well with my daughter. I cant get her to discuss anything right now on the subject. But Im trying.

By: Momstergay 5 months ago

Agree with Saminseattle. There should be multiple conversations...and if you're uncomfortable bringing it up, say so. That said, I haven't been very good at this, but it's important to at least try, and to try to give the impression that your open to talking, listening and answering questions. And providing info. Which is better than nothing.

By: aaaroofmom 3 months ago

I have never kept anything from my kids growing up when it came to sex, how women get pregnant, dads carrying the sperm. If you truly want to succeed just be honest with them and base the details on their age. Like for me, If my 6yr old asks how does mommy get pregnant we would tell her that mommys egg got fertilized by daddys sperm. If she were to ask how our answer would be "mommys and daddys that are married make love and that's how we make babies".  Now my older kids have way more detailed questions like " can you get pregnant from oral sex" and all this other stuff that shocks me but hey I'm open about everything with my girls so if they ask I sit them down and tell the truth. I also have always been honest with my girls about how I experimented with sex in high school and how it did nothing but hurt me in the long run. I mean not physically but just the fact that I got used cuz guys new I would go all the way with them and so finding love was not easy. If you aren't comfortable enough talking to your kids openly maybe an aunt or older sister or even a family friend that is not shy and that you trust could sit down and offer some words of wisdome to your child. I wish my mom would have found someone to talk me thru sex as a teen. I learned everything on my own and promised my girls would never go thru that and it's worked in my favor. my 2 oldest girls put off sex til well after highschool and I have a 21yr old virgin waiting for her wedding nite to finally have sex. now I'm working on keeping my almost 13yr old away from sex. It's going to be hard being that more than 50% of her friends are sexually active this young.

By: mrsncook 3 months ago

I've been talking with them since about that age, but not all at once and all in detail.  Just a little here and there like what changes they're going through with puberty and the American Girl book Care and Keeping of You.  I gave them a girl bag with their name embroidered on it so they could keep their toiletries in it, a card about how proud I was of them turning into beautiful young ladies, and stuff they would need like deodarant, comb, nail clippers, toothbrush/paste.  Things they would need, because I was no longer responsible for their hygene. 

When they got a little older, I took them aside and explained sanitary supplies and how to use them, made a morning and bedtime routine chart for them to follow and explained the importance of that, and we've been discussing boy parts, girl parts, etc.